Disappointing attitude from a local BDSM/fetish site.

[varangian]

There is nothing wrong with this fetish and no-one here should feel guilty about having it. It's not even 'bizarre' as far as fetishes go, violence and sex have always been intertwined and if you talk to pretty much any psychologist/therapist, I guarantee that they will tell you 'erotic murder fantasies' aren't this otherwordly, ghastly unspeakable thing, and that they are surprisingly common.

If any users here are invested in self-loathing because of their own kinks, I would advise not trying to push that mentality off on other people who are perfectly comfortable with their own sexuality.

@Male Navel I'm sorry you had to deal with shitty mods at the other site, but thankfully there are other places such as this forum that are generally more reasonable!

Thanks, Ashe. I agree that no one should feel guilty about this fetish.

I think it's understandable to feel uncomfortable about it, specially at a young age. In my case, I used to be worried about things like becoming desensitized to violence or unable to empathize with people (which, of course, never happened).

Over time, I realized that, despite enjoying this kind of fantasies, I still find real violence as disgusting and disturbing as the average person. I've also had the chance to meet a few people with different but equally weird fetishes, which has helped me putting things into perspective and accepting this fetish for what it is.

Is it a weird kink? Sure. But, as long as it remains a fantasy involving consenting adults and no one gets actually hurt, there's nothing morally wrong with it, and nothing to feel guilty about. It doesn't define you as a person. It's just a kink.

(P.S. English isn't my native language; sorry for any mistakes)

Your English is fine, not to worry.  All well said.

But I would have to add, the strangeness of the fantasy is even questionable - you might not believe some of the things I have encountered, and I think several more strange, if I can say that, than this. I am still wondering what one guy who contacted me once from some personal ad online wanted to do with balloons. Not judging, just scratching my head.

Relatively rare - yes, I think we have to say that, but maybe even not as rare as we may think.

But do please imagine what it was like before the Internet and having this fantasy.